Building strong lasting girlfriend relationships is becoming increasingly challenging. Social Networks, and overly dramatic reality shows are complicating and tainting girlfriend “friendships”. We 👍like our friend’s Instagram and Facebook post, and make pleasant and supportive comments. But, are we achieving Stage 3 Maslow Hierarchy of Needs (Love & Belonging) ? Friendships are built by the development of shared experiences and self-disclosure. Are you open to shared experiences and self-disclosure? Girl’s Best Friend and Co hosts a Meetup group. The mission of the group is to build relationships, uplift and inspire.The group hosts are personable and friendly. They makes a point of reaching out to new members and giving a warm welcome. Although members sign up, some are slow to warming up. When reaching out there’s been occasions when the new member exhibited apprehensive behavior. This isn’t always the case, but it happens more often than we would like to admit. When a woman greats you with a smile or cordial salutation, what goes through your mind? How do you react? Do you smile back? Do you think to yourself, “I wuld like to get to know this person?” I encourage you to be mindful of how you show up when meeting new giorlfriend acquaintances. Sometimes we aren’t mindful of our body language. Let’s talk about engaging, socializing with girlfriends. Are you critical to other women? I have been known to be a “Say if like I mean it” type personality. I never want to offend, I always want to be of benefit to my friends. I have noticed some women are sensitive or easily offended by other women. I believe it has less to do with a girls personality and more to do with their previous experiences. We are made up of our past experiences. If we have had bad experiences with girlfriends in middle school or high school, those experiences tend to stick was us. I hate when women are label catty or petty. I am aware of insecure or aggressive behavior. Generally that is due to past experiences. Have you ever wronged a girlfriend, today you are regretful or remorseful? I strongly believe the longevity of a relationship trumps a single transgression or bad decision. In short, please be mindful of how you show up any other women’s lives. When meeting other ladies, please reframe from the head to toe up and down look. How are you spending leisure time? Women in relationships or with family usually appreciate girlfriend downtime. I understand single women like doing activities that involve meeting and socializing with men. It’s concerning when I meet single women who only want to do activities that involve men. I really really don’t want to offend anyone, but I have to say it like I mean it. I affectionately refer to this girl as, ” the dick chaser”. She never want to engage in activity unless it involves the opposite sex. This girl is eternally single, but she doesn’t understand why. Let me share some insight, a guy can spot a desperate woman a mile away. When you meet a guy, contrary to what you believe he notices how you spend your time. If you always spend your time at the club, or hanging out somewhere because you are looking to meet a guy, trust me sister, guys pick up on this behavior and attitude. Men appreciate confident self-assured women. Women who have their own lives, women who enjoy just bounding with girlfriends. Don’t get me wrong, if you are single, I appreciate the importance of meeting men and dating. Although, it really concerns me when I meet thirty something women who are only interested in activities that involve seeing guys. I know many single women, some prioritize doing things that involve being around men. Ladies it’s ok to have girlfriend time. It’s ok to have dinner with the girlfriends or have movie night with just the girls. I understand that women don’t want to be lonely, but I caution you to take a real look at yourself. Are you dick chasing? Is it really hard for you to just hang with the girls? If your response is, women are petty and catty. Take a good look at yourself, are you the one being petty or catty? Stop dick chasing, at the end of the day you’re only getting dick. If you are saying, well I am happy just getting dick, that opens the door to a different dicussion that we will address in the future. Ultimately, girlfriend relationships are vital to mental well being. If your find yourself lonely, struggling to feel satisfied or complete you should exam your social relationships. I know scientific explanations can be hard to follow, but research shows that girlfriend connections are necessary, it increases serotonin and oxytocin, the bonding hormone. Think back to your very first best girlfriend. Do you remember how important she was to you? Do you remember how she influenced you? What changed? Was it past experiences or did you become boy crazy so you abandon the importance of girlfriend relationships? If you are that girl, take hard look at the quality of your life and how it can be improved by building a few strong girlfriend relationships. SaveSave SaveSave
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